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Val

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How do you cope with the quiet?

« on: July 15, 2008, 12:27:34 PM »

I think I must be suffering from empty nest syndrome our Sarah has joined up and it only leaves Sean at home, although he's at work all day and out all weekend, the place is so quiet. Its not too bad when Franks around but when he's at work too even the dogs are subdued.I'm busy enough, loads to do as well as taking the dogs out twice a day but its the deathly quiet, I'm used to banging crashing and music and running upstairs, although I do put the radio on, its just not the same. Has anyone else gone through this? does it get better? I thought I'd love a bit of peace and time to myself, I hate it...help...


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mac

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Re: How do you cope with the quiet?

« Reply #1 on: July 15, 2008, 03:10:27 PM »

Yeh Val thats what its like....its takes some getting used to,but at least you will have someone coming or going lol,its really monotonus when you are alone.!
But alas you learn to live with it,I learnt the pc,well some say I didnt really i am still learning.!
Out of action from now Val see you all soon take care x


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Phoenix

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Re: How do you cope with the quiet?

« Reply #2 on: July 15, 2008, 10:15:18 PM »

Hi Val, Just stop and think ?? Now you can do your own thing, anytime?? Your own Music and your Dogs to relax and enjoy with. I expect it must come hard with the BIG change, but please, give yourself Time to adjust??
When i was on my own for seven years, i was fortunate, to 'plough' myself back into Work -- The only self time, was at night, listening to my music, lights out, curtains drawn and I put myself into another world -- that was my only escape --- Luckily, I survived!!


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Val

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Re: How do you cope with the quiet?

« Reply #3 on: July 16, 2008, 07:04:13 AM »

Thank you folks at least now I know I'll get used to it, I am thankful I'm not on my own completely.When Sean goes I expect we'd move to a smaller place, a bungalow or something, I couldn't rattle around here with just the 2 of us.


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Phoenix

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Re: How do you cope with the quiet?

« Reply #4 on: July 21, 2008, 05:25:49 PM »

Hello Val, Don't forget with your computer -- The World is Your Oyster?? So much easier to 'chat' to friends as I do using SKYPE and it's FREE???


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mac

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Re: How do you cope with the quiet?

« Reply #5 on: July 22, 2008, 05:03:37 PM »

Hi Val
I downsized when all mine went,and never regretted it,I have all I need and it is very ecconomical to run.
Of course there are some things I miss and some things I gained,but you acant have everything lol


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ansu

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Re: How do you cope with the quiet?

« Reply #6 on: July 22, 2008, 08:41:28 PM »

Val, true it's an enormous change, but you will get accustomed to it. When I have become a single again about eleven years ago, I hated it to go home in the new empty, dark and cold house, but now this house has become a "place of retreat" for me and I enjoy it to switch on the computer in the evening!


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Val

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Re: How do you cope with the quiet?

« Reply #7 on: July 24, 2008, 03:22:51 PM »

I've been without the computer for a few days, the internet router went and we couldn't get online, its all fixed now thank goodness, the house has never looked so clean. lol..I think I'm getting used to Sarah being away now, it doesn't seem so bleak and awful, I hope that choking feeling doesn't come back, it was truly like a great sadness descending.


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smiler

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Re: How do you cope with the quiet?

« Reply #8 on: July 24, 2008, 04:14:20 PM »

what courses are Sarah taking now....she joined the R.A.F.
did`nt she...and what does she want to do evenualy !
do you do jigsaws...as there are a couple of good sites.
i do `brainsbraker`....you can turn the family photo`s in to jigsaws....good fun...if you like that sort of thing.
my router conked out earier in the year...got this other
one....dear compared to A.O.L....nice to see you....to see
you n-i-c-e !


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Val

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Re: How do you cope with the quiet?

« Reply #9 on: July 25, 2008, 12:12:46 PM »

She's doing her basic training at the moment, can't say much more about her job, its classified and she won't and can't tell me.I used to do loads of jigsaws years ago, the computer takes up most of my time now.


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Phoenix

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Re: How do you cope with the quiet?

« Reply #10 on: July 25, 2008, 03:40:42 PM »

Looking forward to some next week, even with the schools closed ---- Peace and Quiet, will be esential to us. There will be tears from us both, with Misty gone:


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ansu

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Re: How do you cope with the quiet?

« Reply #11 on: July 25, 2008, 08:15:06 PM »

Phoenix, why will Misty be gone next week?


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mac

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Re: How do you cope with the quiet?

« Reply #12 on: July 25, 2008, 08:16:26 PM »

Val,the computer takes up everyones time lol lol


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Val

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Re: How do you cope with the quiet?

« Reply #13 on: July 26, 2008, 07:08:58 AM »

Its good though Mac isn't it, I was talking to another dog walker the other day, he is feeling a bit lonely and bored, he's 68 and we told him, get a computer and get on the internet, he said but what about the brain box, he'd been used to using it in his job. We said it will do your head in and tax the brain alright and we thoroughly recommend it, I haven't seen him since lol. I wonder if he's looking into it all.


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ansu

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Re: How do you cope with the quiet?

« Reply #14 on: July 26, 2008, 10:58:33 AM »

True, the computer is really good, if you feel lonely.


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